OCCUPATION: Company Director, Mother and More
I work full-time plus in a travel company I started with two friends around three years ago. I am mum to a gorgeous nine year old boy and I’m engaged with life, people and my community.
At this point in my life I would sum up it up by saying it's awesome, but this was not always the case.
I came to Universal Medicine around seven years ago, in my early thirties, where you could say I should have been vital, full of life and in my prime. This was not so. Even though I only worked two days a week I was constantly looking for ways to work less. I had to count my pennies, even on occasion in the actual supermarket as I did my groceries – if I over-spent that was it, I would have to put something back on the shelf. I lived week to week and was exhausted by it.
I gave everything to my son who at the time was a toddler. I thought sacrificing myself meant I was a good mother. What this did mean was that even though he got all of me, the all that I had to offer was not much at all!
At the same time, I was also withdrawn from life and society. I had two close friends that lived nearby. They had children the same age and that was the extent of my social life. I enjoyed chatting with the people I cleaned for but there was always an out, as in I was working and couldn’t chat for long and I was very much in control of how much I let people in. I lived alone with my son in a relatively isolated bush cabin, meal times were just me and him and that was the way it was most of the time – just the two of us. Connecting with people was not something I did, and for the most part I avoided humanity to the best of my ability.
I realised I was capable of change and anything that I was stuck in was my own creation
When I first started seeing a Universal Medicine practitioner I was complaining about money. She made the most simple statement, but one that, believe it or not, had never crossed my mind. She said to me “If you want more money, work more”. Something clicked in me, more than just the solution to my money problems. I took a step in responsibility for my life. I realised I was capable of change and anything that I was stuck in was my own creation. My son was still young at the time and as a single parent there were some limitations to how much was feasible for me to work. I was self-employed as a cleaner and within a few weeks I had a full extra day of work. This was life changing. As time went on and my son got older, I increased the amount of work I did until today where work and home life don’t have the same boundaries as they used to.
Fast forward seven years to now and I love people. I share a house with another woman, I have regular dinner dates and I spend a large portion of my day on the phone to customers. Even two years ago when we started the business I was adamant I didn’t want to be on the phone to customers as it was not my forté. At work we laugh about it now as I’m amazing with customers and I love being on the phone.
Work is mixed in with my life and is not something separate. I work a lot from my home office and customers often comment at the times of day they get emails from me. I begin work around 4am and finish around 8pm. In between I cook meals, hang out with my son, take walks, tend my garden, do the laundry and live a full life, including having a second business where I offer de-cluttering courses and sessions to people online. Life is a mix of everything that is there to be done and I work hard. In that hard work there is nothing but joy. My life is full of purpose and this in itself is hugely fulfilling.
I am a living example of how life can be one – work, home socialising etc – it is all one life
I am a living example of how life can be one. It doesn’t need to be separated into categories – work, home socialising etc. To me there is no difference if I am in the office, in the kitchen, at a course, taking a morning walk – it is all one life. I don’t change depending on what role I am in or what task I am performing – it is me living my life. The freedom in this is exquisite.
Around two years ago I bought the house I live in and am loving to the core the responsibility and stability it offers. I was always quite nomadic – I travelled a lot and never was in one place long enough to become part of the community. Whilst I have always been a stable person, my housing situation was far from stable. Now I own my home, love the joy it brings and enjoy everything about home ownership. My garden is growing and my home only increases in beauty.
My son and I once had a very intense relationship, with me sacrificing myself for him, there was a heaviness and huge imposition upon him that came with that. These days, whilst still a work in progress and a relationship that will always deepen, we have much more fun together. He has the space to be himself without me imposing what I want and my needs upon him. I am realising our relationship is about our connection and that he is a being of his own. Parenting responsibilities are not to be shied away from but neither are they to be the only way of relating.
My son now has the space to be himself without me imposing what I want and my needs upon him
Universal Medicine has been a huge part of my life and was a massive turning point. Whilst I can only credit the changes in my life to me and my choices, it was with the steady, loving and helping hand Serge Benhayon and Universal Medicine have offered me that I was able to take a different path and one that is an ever increasing joy to walk upon.